Boys who have independent spirits
“You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore. But let there be spaces in your togetherness, and let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Let it be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.” – Kahlil Gibran
we’re not princess perfect at livin’ out the things we believe in, but we try with all our might to be the girls we say we wanna be. and part of that is givin’ the people on our journey the freedom to be who they wanna be too. but girls are complicated and silly creatures, and insecurities and fears make that kinda stuff easier talked about than done about… but if we have a lil’ patience with ourselves we can always stay true to what we want in life.
and what we want is to be full of things like independence, faith, & trust… and to want a boy for who he wants to be, and not need a boy to be what we need him to be. and so here’s a few beautiful things we love about independent spirits…
“When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.” – Paulo Coelho / The Alchemist
when ya like a boy, you usually have things in common with him… and having stuff in common is def important… it helps you connect to each other. but, to need to have everrrrything in common with someone… not so much. if you only like all the same music, all the same movies, all the same hobbies, have all the exact same views on things… it’s kinda just like datin’ yourself :\ we believe in forever with one boy, so to us, forever with someone should be filled with intriguing conversations, new experiences, and evolving energy. we love when a crush turns us on to new music, or gets us to try something we’ve never done, or they help us see something totally new inside ourself. if 2 hearts are connected with the deep soul stuff, then the differences are playful and exciting… and ya get to be surprised and curious, and learn and grow.
“I’ll go anywhere, West Virginia baby I don’t care, Mexico on a wild hair, have you ever seen California?, pick a spot on any old map, I travel light and my bags are packed, just as long as I’m where you’re at, I’m gonna have a real good view, I’ll go anywhere, anywhere with you.” – Jake Owen / Anywhere
we’re gypsy souls and adventure is just part of who are, and we love a boy with a restless spirit. there is a big and beautiful universe out there, we want to go on adventures with him. spontaneous road trips, aimless drives to nowhere, anywhere he wants to ramble, we’ll be the ride-or-die bonnie to his clyde.
“A friend is someone who inspires, who challenges, who sends you in search of some truer sense of yourself.” – Steve Lopez / The Soloist
we’re def girls who need to be with our girls, so one thing we’ll always embrace is a boy with his boys. a boy’s true friends are a place that he goes to be himself, to inspire himself, to have fun in life, and to have people who are "home" to him on his journey… friends are family… so game night, poker night, dirt bike days… whatever him and his boys like to do, we’re all about boys having boy time… and we actually think a boy in his element with his friends is crazy adorable, so we love to be with a boy and his boys and crush on him just bein’ a total boy ♥.
“It’s all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self love deficit.” – Eartha Kitt
love is the most precious thing in the universe to us, so we never ever want to be in something that isn’t love, and try to call it love, when it falls short of how beautiful love is meant to be. so many people get into relationships just to have someone there, because they think having just anyone there, will fill up what’s missing inside of them. and that kind of connection isn’t about being in love, but more about broken people who end up trying to fix each other, change each other, use each other, or fill their own voids with the other person. but if you feel emptiness when you’re alone, a relationship won’t change it – because you can’t truly give someone love and light if you don’t have it within yourself first :\. to us, the purest love comes from something you’re full of inside of you, and it overflows like crazy to the other person. you want them to be free and filled up so they can always be the best them, with you… that kind of love happens when 2 independent people come together, but love who they are on their own, and always keep both of their own inside journeys alive. so we want that love and independence for ourselves… and all that beautiful stuff for the boy too.