"Love people for who they are, and not for what they can do for you." – Unknown
we’re crazy silly romance and love story obsessed. but beyond all of the lyrics and poetry, we’re always seeking what "love" actually means to us. we don’t want to just say it or pretend it, we want it to be real. to us, real starts with what we feel in our hearts and what we hold in our thoughts, and that energy is what comes through in our actions. so when we’re seeking love, we start inside ourselves. one thing us 4 girls all want is to be free to be our best selves, and we know that to receive it, we need to be able to give the same thing. so we want to learn to truly love someone for who they are, and not for what they can do for us. that means to love the boy we fall in love with not from a place of needing from him, but just for who he is.
when relationships are based on need, it becomes about acting out issues on each other, instead of experiencing each other, like a project or something people have to “work” at. and people are never happy because they are looking for someone to "do", "fix" "fill", “change”, "validate" something for them, and no one else can ever do, fix, fill, change, or validate anything for us. if we want to truly be able to be ourselves, we each have to find that stuff in ourselves. we want love to come from a genuine want for the other person and curiosity about them, so it’s something we get to do. so when experience love, we don’t need them to fill in check boxes or fit into a life plan, but instead we can be open to each other and the way our journeys magically weave together. so we don’t need to fix someone or be fixed by them, but we can allow ourselves to be inspired by each other and feel free to grow. so we don’t need them to agree, believe, act, think, feel a certain way, and we can take in who they are without fear, or control, or judgment.
we’re def still learnin’, but we know that the key is in understanding that other people don’t define us, they connect with us. and the more true we are in our own energy, the more we can embrace people for the special energy they bring to us.
so when we say "l love you", we want those words to mean just that… i love you. i love you for… the way you smile, for the light in your eyes, for how you laugh, for the confidence you carry, for the integrity you hold, for when you’re silly, for when you’re inspired, for what you care about and the things that bring you joy, for your wondrous imagination and your creative spirit, for the things you believe in, for what you’re passionate about, for how you are around people when you’re shining, for the special way you see the world, for the beautiful thoughts in your head, for the beautiful feelings in your heart, for the soul inside of you when we’re alone in the dark and it’s just your heartbeat against mine. for you.